I’ve been thinking. I know it’s dangerous when that happens, but sometimes it just can’t be helped. These virtual social networks invade our lives or perhaps as our lives invade these virtual social networks. Every now and again it’s good to examine what that means. What’s happening to us? How are we affected
I’ve had discussions with several people on different occasions about how these social networks, I’m personally speaking on Facebook and Twitter because they’re currently the largest part of my community, bleed all these aspects of our lives. Our friends join them. Our families join them. Our Coworkers join them. All together in one spot our lives conjoin.
They’re social spaces by their nature, these places. We communicate informally, share our stories. Our status updates tell alot about who we are, not just what we’re doing. This is one of the things that I love about these tools.
I’m a social creature. I’m an informal creature. Yes, I know the importance of business and formality. I know when it’s time to put on a tie and shave. I’d say comb my hair, but if you know me, you know what a futile effort that would be. But by my nature, I prefer the laid back social interactions. This is where we get to know the people. This is how regular people become our people.
As I let my colleagues lives into my social networks I know more about them. I can see them at play, making sly (not rude, mind you) remarks about their day, their lives, their work. You learn that they have days they don’t want to be there just like you do. It humanizes them. And they get to see mine. They hear about my disdain for my car. My excitement for my job. My driving my wife to Indiana. I can relate to them on a deeper level.
And that changes our relationship. That changes our relationship in a good way.
So where’s the hitch?
You have to watch what you say. Especially with Twitter, which I feel is the most informal of all simply by its play by play, moment by moment nature. The balance can be tough. And we may not realize it in the moment we tweet. And with Twitter, it’s generally there for all the world to see, even the people not following you. If they search the right word, they might find you.
What am I talking about? I’m not talking about walking around on your tiptoes every time you type something, wondering how it might be construed or misconstrued. You do have to do that some, but if you maintain a level of civility, I think you’ll be okay. I think that most people that use these features get it. But you still have to be careful.
So what am I talking about? Well, for example a few days ago I submitted my CV to my current employer for a promotion to the vacant professional position above me. I want the job, and when I did it, I let my tweeps know. Their outpouring of support for me was pretty awesome. I really appreciated it. I still do.
And then I got to thinking. This could be the last time I get to tweet about my job hunting experience. What if I some future day go searching for another job? We know it happens. I couldn’t really advertise that through my social networks. That couldn’t be good if it got back to my employer… and it could. It probably would in one way or another.
While this medium is so ripe for these sorts of exhanges, mass exchanges, I guess we have to let some things go. I’m willing to let that one go. The benifits outway the costs. We just need to be aware of the costs.

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